Young Love & Marriage - The Perfectly Imperfect Mama

Young Love & Marriage

by - Friday, August 07, 2015

Happy Fri-yay! :)

Today I'm talking about how Daniel & I met ..
& how marriage is the hardest thing I've ever done ..

September 2003 my mom & sister had gotten part time waitressing jobs at a local bbq restaurant in our town called Hillbilly's BBQ.  They would always talk about this busboy named Daniel that worked with them that was just so funny & made everyone laugh.  I can remember it like it was yesterday .. I was only 14 years old, I was a freshman, I was dating a JV football player for our high school & that night we were meeting up at a Friday night football game but first my step dad & I had went to Hillbilly's for dinner.  When we were getting out of the car I noticed a group of guys standing by a truck in the parking lot ...I didn't think much about it but apparently that funny busboy was in that group of guys & had met Nelson (my step dad) before so he knew that Pam must be my mom.  A few weeks later my boyfriend & I broke up .. & that's when my mom told me that Daniel had been begging her to introduce the two of us.  He was 16 years old & she was totally against it .. actually she tried getting my sister hooked up with him but those two were definitely just meant to be 'brother & sister' :) Finally my mom gave in & one evening I went up to Hillbilly's & I finally met that 16 year old busboy, Daniel Pegram .. everyone was right, he was super funny!

Our very first picture together! Babies! 

 A couple weeks later in October a group of us went to the Cleveland County Fair & I can still remember what I wore that night.  Daniel ended up losing his keys & cell phone on one of those crazy rides.  After that night we started talking to each other on the phone for hours at a time.  Finally on October 14, 2003 he asked me to be his girlfriend ... & of course I said yes! :) We dated all through high school & he actually transferred so we could go to the same school .. we had so much drama throughout our years of school it was a hot mess! :) We broke up a time or 4 while we dated but somehow we always ended up back together.  

On August 16, 2008 Daniel proposed to me.  It was nothing romantic, but it was so Dan.  We had went to the mall & he had me in jewelry stores trying on rings, little did I know he had mine in his pocket the whole time.  We had dinner at Olive Garden, anyone who knows me knows that I love Olive Garden so I was feeding my face.  He wasn't eating very much & at the time I had no idea why but I do now ... he was super nervous.  We got into his truck & I had just put one of those yummy mints they give you in my mouth .. he pulled into the parking lot of Toys R Us which was beside OG, leaned over & kissed me, then said "Whitney, I promise to love & take care of you for the rest of our lives .. Will you marry me?" I cried .. a lot .. so much that he kept saying "is that a yes" .. when I could finally talk I said yes!

On April 25, 2009 we said "I do" & the wedding was perfect.  I always wanted a simple but elegant wedding & it was just that .. a day I will never forget.

'Therefore what God has joined together let no one separate .. ' Mark 10:9

Marriage, hands down is the hardest thing I've ever done.  It's not like dating anymore, the spark eventually goes away but its up to the 2 of you to bring it back & sometimes we start looking for those butterflies elsewhere, but guess what?...those butterflies will eventually go away too.  You no longer can think of just yourself anymore, you always have to take your spouses feelings into consideration.  That's hard.  Dan & I went from dating at the age of 14 & 16 to being married at 19 & 21 to being first time parents at 20 & 22 ... that's super young & a lot to take on. We thought we knew everything there was to know about each other since we dated 5 1/2 years before we got married...truth is we are still learning stuff about one another & we've been together almost 12 years & married 6! We've made some pretty amazing memories together but we've also made some pretty crappy choices .. choices so bad that neither one of us knew if our marriage was going to survive.  Dan & I both are very forgiving.  We were raised that forgiving is what you do in order to move on with your life & be happy .. but we are both very much aware that things will never be forgotten.  I will say that my choices have been much worse than Dan's but he has chosen to forgive me & love me ... for better or for worse.  The world may take everything away from us but at the end of the day we have each other & our 2 sweet kiddos & an amazing family standing behind us.  I pray everyday that Cooper grows up to be just like Dan & I pray Millie Jo ends up marrying a man just like her daddy.  Marriage isn't always a walk in the park .. I've learned that the grass is only greener where you water it.  I've made terrible mistakes but have taken responsibility for them.  I can only fix my marriage & I look forward to doing so with Dan... I'm so underserving of him.  Marriage is 100/100 &  I really hate it took me 6 years to see that but why not start today.  We are keeping our eyes to Jesus.  Our God is way bigger than any storm we ever go through. 

Hope y'all have a good weekend :)
See you Monday!

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