How God Saved Our Marriage : How We Met/Dating Years - The Perfectly Imperfect Mama

How God Saved Our Marriage : How We Met/Dating Years

by - Wednesday, January 24, 2018

Therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate.
Mark 10:9

[Whitney]  In September of 2003, my mom & sister had gotten part time waitressing jobs at a local bbq restaurant in our town.  They both would always come home talking about this busboy named Daniel that worked with them & how funny he was.  He was always making everyone laugh.  I was only fourteen years old, I was a freshman in high school & was dating a junior varsity football player.  It was a Friday night & we had planned to meet up at the football game but first, my step dad & I went to dinner at the bbq place.  When we were getting out of the car I noticed a group of guys standing by a truck in the parking lot.  I didn't think much about it but apparently that funny busboy that my mom & sister always talked about was in that group.

[Daniel]  I had met Whitney's step dad before so when I saw her get out of the car with him, I knew that must be Pam's (Whitney's mom) other daughter.  She had no idea who I was but I knew her because her mom had talked about her.  One of my best friends at the time worked at the restaurant with me and after Whitney & her step dad walked inside, I told him that girl was going to be my girlfriend.  He of course laughed at me.

[Whitney]  It wasn't a few weeks later my boyfriend and I broke up.  That's when my mom told me that Daniel had been begging her to introduce the two of us since that night of the football game.  He was sixteen years old and she was totally against it!  Actually, she tried to get my sister, who was seventeen at the time, hooked up with him.  Funny, right!?!  Finally, after all that begging, my mom gave in to Dan and one evening I went to the restaurant and met that sixteen year old busboy ... everyone was right, he was SO funny!

[Daniel]  We weren't allowed to go anywhere by ourselves and honestly, I don't think either of us cared because she was so young (and was nervous every single time we were together) and I loved being around her family.  Later on in October, a group of us went to the county fair.  We still weren't boyfriend and girlfriend at this point.  She rode with her sister and friend and I met them over there.  I ended up losing my keys AND cell phone on one of the rides and her friend wouldn't give me a ride home so they left and I had to wait on my dad to bring me my spare key.

[Whitney]  I still feel bad about her not giving him a ride home!  I will never forget though, our very first ride together at the fair was the ship that swings back & forth.  We laughed the entire time!  After that night at the fair, we started talking on the phone every night for hours at a time.  Finally on October 14, 2003 he asked me to be his girlfriend.

[Daniel]  We dated all through high school and actually I transferred schools so we could go to the same one.  

[Whitney]  You want to talk about drama???  I feel like our relationship attracted drama all through high school and NOT because we wanted it to.  I won't lie though, during our dating years we broke up four different times ... and every single time it was me breaking up with him.  Yes, there are just some things in life you wish you could go back and change.  Perhaps he should've ran then?

[Daniel]  I knew even back then that I loved her too much to let her go that easily.

[Whitney]  Even when we broke up, we always ended up back together.  The very last time we broke up, I was a junior in high school and Dan had just graduated.  I started seeing this college guy and had just gotten my hair done ... when the guy saw me his exact words were "what did you do to your hair?"  That next day, Dan had came by my house (we tried to stay friends) and the very first thing he said to me was "you are beautiful."  I knew then (even at 17 years old) that he was the one I was supposed to be with.

When I look back on when I first met Dan, I always tell people that I was never looking for a husband at fourteen years old but that is just how God works.  He knew many years ago that when my mom was praying for my husband when I was child that she was praying for Dan.

You may be reading this and thinking, "goodness gracious, their relationship even then seemed great minus the few break ups" or "good grief, Daniel seems like a dream guy."  If you are thinking that second part, then you are right.  He is pretty amazing but he's not perfect, nor am I.  We've never had the perfect relationship and as you continue to read each week, you will find that out.  Things happen, people change, life happens.  If someone would've told me back in 2003 that in 2015 I would be married to that funny busboy but our marriage was crumbling, I would have never believed them.

Heavenly Father,  I don't know who is reading this today but we pray that you will bless them.  Maybe they too married their high school sweetheart and are going through a difficult time in their marriage years later.  Lord, we ask that you bring healing to them.  We pray that they keep their eyes to you, Jesus.
In Your precious and Holy name.

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  1. Following along with you and excited to see how God worked (& continues to work) in your marriage. Thanks for sharing!